All The Signs We Might Have Made Ourselves Emotionally Unavailable

Have you ever looked at someone and found yourself thinking they’re emotionally unavailable? It can often be pretty easy to spot in other people as their string of red flags flies above their heads like a giant warning sign to the rest of the world: they don’t make space for you in their lives, they won’t commit, and they often brush off any time they have to be social.

Still, all the signs we might have made ourselves emotionally unavailable could be like looking in a mirror. Most of the time, there is a root to the problem, and it can often be easy to pass it off as something else. However, that doesn’t mean we have to stay this way if we’re ready to change and open ourselves back up to the world.

You feel like you’re lacking something in life

Have you ever had the feeling that something is missing in your life, even though you have no idea what it could be? You’re not alone. In fact, it’s perfectly normal to feel that you’re lacking something, but this could also be a sign that someone has made themselves emotionally unavailable. It’s said that this feeling changes someone’s vibration, with a low vibration attracting unhappiness and misery. Instead, it’s all about switching the way we feel about things and feeling present in the moment over worrying about the things we don’t have to help bring happiness into our lives and share that feeling with those around us.

You have issues trusting other people

Learning how to trust someone is personal to everyone. For some of us, we quickly learn that someone has our back and feel comfortable opening up to them. For others, past experiences have left us feeling like we have to keep our guard up and can never share what we’re truly thinking and feeling with those around us, even after getting to know them for a long time. Many people find themselves thinking we have to wait for the “right person” to trust. The problem? They might never come because it’s us making ourselves emotionally unavailable and not just because everyone is untrustworthy. Sure, there are times people can’t be trusted, but what is it that’s holding us back from opening up to someone who has done more than enough to prove they are someone we can trust?

You set high expectations for your relationships

One of the downsides of modern life is the fact we never have any time. Social media has led plenty of people to think that every relationship has to be perfect at all hours of the day and that someone should be there for us no matter what, regardless of how they are feeling. The problem is that it’s unrealistic and can oftentimes set us up for failure. Another issue is that so many people think they will look bad or be judged if they ever let their guard down and show their true selves or any weaknesses they might have. In the end, this can lead to unrealistic relationships and have a huge effect on our mental wellbeing. This doesn’t just go for our romantic partners. Perhaps your friends are all getting promoted and engaged? Just because things look good on the outside doesn’t mean that everything is perfect, and sometimes, life is all about showing the other side of the coin, too.

How can someone become emotionally available again?

Just because we feel we’ve made ourselves emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean that it has to stay that way. Instead, it’s all about learning to find the balance again and learning to keep our energy positive when moving forward. If you solely rely on your physical looks to build relationships, you might find you never have an emotional connection with someone. If you shut yourself off from finding new friends and relationships, why would someone work to break down those walls? Anxiety can often get in the way, but start looking for things to help create the complete version of yourself. This doesn’t mean trying to be perfect. No, this can be things like working toward social situations you want to be a part of, learning how to share your accomplishments and the things you need to work on, and understanding that it’s okay to trust people when they have shown they are trustworthy.

All the signs we might have made ourselves emotionally unavailable can be a lot to take on, but that doesn’t mean we have to live like this for the rest of our lives. Instead, it can be time to recognize those signs and work toward turning things around.